Melanie Berliet

Breakup, Makeup, Wise Up

Jul 25, 2013

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Jul 25, 2013
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:00 PM

And here we are!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:00 PM

My co-host, Rachel Sussman, is the author of a book called the Breakup Bible
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Melanie Berliet · 11:00 PM

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0307885097/
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Rachel Sussman · 11:00 PM

Hi Mel! Hello all. Glad to be here.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:01 PM

Rachel, I'm wondering what inspired you to write this book
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Melanie Berliet · 11:02 PM

Rachel is also a practicing psychotherapist, I should say. And a nationally renowned relationship expert
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Rachel Sussman · 11:02 PM

Breakups are one of the top reasons people come to see a therapist. And several of my close friends ended up divorced. Many women were telling me that there wasn't a great resource, such a book, for women
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Rachel Sussman · 11:02 PM

to heal and deal with divorce - written by a woman therapist
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Rachel Sussman · 11:02 PM

Also I strongly feel that you can fully recover from a breakup and divorce and go on to live a wonderful life
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:03 PM

That sounds useful. Even if a person hasn't been married, they generally know the pain of a breakup
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Rachel Sussman · 11:03 PM

Most people will go through a bad breakup in their life - and if it doesn't kill you (it won't) it will make you stronger!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:03 PM

I feel you. I'm dating a divorced man, after all
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Melanie Berliet · 11:03 PM

He must be happy!
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Melanie Berliet · 11:03 PM

ha
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Melanie Berliet · 11:03 PM

So true. Experience counts
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Rachel Sussman · 11:03 PM

If he's dating you I'm sure he is happy ;-)
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:04 PM

What has the response to the book been so far?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:04 PM

Have you given it to clients?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:04 PM

Yes - experience does count. You should emerge from a breakup wiser! If you do you work, that is.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:04 PM

★ Spotlighted from Rachael Workman

“but there are different kinds of breakups, and therefore different methods of recovery right? for example, the guy cheats on you versus you just grow apart...”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:04 PM

And you should take responsibility - there is always something to be learned.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:04 PM

Rachel, what is the most common cause of a breakup amongst your clients?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:05 PM

Yes - but I believe that everyone needs to go through my three stages of "Healing, Understanding, and Transformation". There are different circumstances but many shared feelings.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:05 PM

Got it.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:05 PM

It's not always because your hubby's sexting strangers, then
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Melanie Berliet · 11:05 PM

Are you surprised that Anthony Weiner's wife continues to support him?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:05 PM

Well we do see a lot of infidelity.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:06 PM

I imagine there's a lot of electronic infidelity going on these days
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Rachel Sussman · 11:06 PM

Marriage is complicated! They have a small child. You never really know what goes on behind closed doors.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:06 PM

How do you feel about reading a partner's texts or emails to double check on them...
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Rachel Sussman · 11:06 PM

Yes - a ton of electronic infidelity. Texting, facebook, etc.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:06 PM

Right. I don't judge Mrs. Weiner.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:07 PM

Truthfully I don't think what Anthony did is all that disturbing. It might be a career downer, but it's not all that horrible
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:07 PM

★ Spotlighted from Rachael Workman

“Huma, this one's for you.”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:07 PM

We can judge him! But I don't judge her. She's in a difficult position trying to protect her child and possibly her professional reputation.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:07 PM

Yes, and she's besties with Hillary Clinton. I can guess what advice Hillary's giving her!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:07 PM

Why do you think that Mel?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:07 PM

I just don't think of sexting as "bad"
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Melanie Berliet · 11:08 PM

Also, no one knows what Anthony and his wife's relationship boundaries are
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Rachel Sussman · 11:08 PM

Hillary is probably being supportive and saying that marriage is hard - and that being married to a politician is very complicated.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:08 PM

for all we know, they have an agreement whereby that behavior's okay
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Rachel Sussman · 11:08 PM

Even in a committed marriage?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:08 PM

do we know they're in a committed monogamous marriage?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:08 PM

What if a couple has agreed to monogamy?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:08 PM

in general, i think we know a lot less about people than we think
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Rachel Sussman · 11:09 PM

No, you're right, we don't. But we assume. But really - the guy is in the public eye. Common.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:09 PM

that's all i'm saying. that in order to jude the situation, we have to make a lot of assumptions
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Melanie Berliet · 11:09 PM

exactly! we assume. that's what I mean.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:09 PM

Yes you're right.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:09 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“What right do you have to judge him? Isn't what A. Weiner did between him and his wife?”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:10 PM

But even if a couple has an open marriage - if you respect your partner - can't you have an affair quietly?Why sext someone you don't really know in this crazy electronic day and age?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:10 PM

Don't we all judge!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:10 PM

It's definitely an odd choice for a politician.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:10 PM

Is he screaming for help?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:10 PM

Maybe!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:10 PM

They guy is a politician and trying to run for mayor. He has told the press that he is "cured".
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:10 PM

We do all judge. That's for sure.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:11 PM

Yes, he is screaming for help. In my humble opinion.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:11 PM

Do you think he'll be our mayor?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:11 PM

On a side note, I liked this Salon article in defense of Weiner (kind of): http://www.salon.com/2013/07/24/in_defense_of_weiner_kinda/
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Melanie Berliet · 11:12 PM

★ Spotlighted from Blake Ian

“I'm don't completely disagree with Sasha... But someone running for or IN public office is going to be judged”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:12 PM

I have several friends (and clients) who have gone outside of their marriage for a variety of reasons. Loneliness, lack of intimacy, limited or no sex. But privately. Then, don't judge.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:12 PM

Rachel, you and I have discussed the "Venn diagram" approach to relationships before
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Melanie Berliet · 11:12 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“What advice can you give to those who have affairs because they are unfulfilled in their marriages? Is it right? Wrong?”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:12 PM

Can you elaborate Mel - your article on it is fabulous. I read it last night.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:12 PM

thanks Rachel!
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Melanie Berliet · 11:13 PM

yes. I think there's something to be said about each partner maintaining some semblance of independence, as long as there's a healthy overlap between your lives as a couple
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Melanie Berliet · 11:14 PM

Rachel, I think you can tackle Sasha's question
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Rachel Sussman · 11:14 PM

Like I said earlier Sasha, it's not a matter of right or wrong really. People are motivated to seek comfort and happiness. I think that sometimes a couple will decide to stay together to raise a child - and if it is a sexless marriage,
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Melanie Berliet · 11:14 PM

(I'm not qualified)
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Melanie Berliet · 11:14 PM

It's fuck or get fucked, some say
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Rachel Sussman · 11:15 PM

if someone is really unhappy and seeks comfort elsewhere - like you say, a personal choice. But i've seen way too many relationships fall apart over infidelity and the partner who has been cheated on can be traumatized
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Melanie Berliet · 11:15 PM

Right. Getting caught is a downer!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:15 PM

Marriage is a long and hard road! People need to understand what they are signing up for.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:15 PM

(that was insensitive of me). I don't advocate cheating, obviously.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:15 PM

I dig honesty
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Melanie Berliet · 11:15 PM

So true!
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Melanie Berliet · 11:16 PM

And I think communication about expectations PRIOR to tying the knot is key
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Rachel Sussman · 11:16 PM

Couples should talk while engaged (or prior) regarding such issues. "How will we handle it if we lose sexual interest in each other?"
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Melanie Berliet · 11:16 PM

too many young people get caught up in the romance of marriage and assume that being in love will solve all their problems
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Melanie Berliet · 11:16 PM

I've seen this happen as my friends have started getting married
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Rachel Sussman · 11:16 PM

So how about that Ven diagram mel?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:16 PM

Oh yes. The Venn Diagram.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:17 PM

I think there needs to be a healthy intersection, but also room for independence in a relationship
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Melanie Berliet · 11:17 PM

My piece on the subject: http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/how-my-boyfriend-and-i-deal-with-each-others-sexual-pasts/
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Rachel Sussman · 11:17 PM

Yes, exactly and this is why the divorce rate is so high! It shocks me that even today, over 20 years since I got married, young women are still really into getting engaged, getting a ring. Competitive with friends, fielding pressure from relatives.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:17 PM

All this pressure can make people make poor decisions regarding marrige.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:18 PM

Yeah. I have seen it happen firsthand
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Rachel Sussman · 11:18 PM

Yes - I am all for independence!
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Melanie Berliet · 11:18 PM

the glamour of wedding planning fades fast, and then reality sets in
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Melanie Berliet · 11:18 PM

Do you get a lot of clients who are newly married, Rachel?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:18 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“Thanks Rachel. I was motivate to seek happiness outside of my marriage and in truth it was the best thing that ever happened to me. However, you are right in that it brought great pain to the other party and I regret that.”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:19 PM

Yes and it can be a brutal awakening. I am seeing many couples in their late 20s and early 30s divorce. It's really too bad. I mean it's great that divorce is legal - but really we need to think things through a bit more!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:19 PM

I've heard that the first months of marriage can be the most difficult. The adjustment and whatnot
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Rachel Sussman · 11:20 PM

My personal preference Sasha is that when someone finds themselves attracted to another, or are really unhappy in a marriage, start a dialogue with your partner before getting involved with another. It's "cleaner" that way. Less pain and guilt.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:20 PM

Sasha, you're forgetting that you were being hurt by that party too—probably just as much.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:20 PM

I like the idea of a "clean" appraoch
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Rachel Sussman · 11:20 PM

Mel to your point - especially for couples who don't live together a big adjustment.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:21 PM

But also, the sadness that the wedding is over. Especially if the wedding is a big deal.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:21 PM

Oh yeah. I definitely believe in cohabiting prior to marriage. I can't believe anyone would argue that that's a bad idea
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Melanie Berliet · 11:21 PM

★ Spotlighted from Blake Ian

“I've never understood cheating... Being 34 and single I TOTALLY understand the desire to stray, but when that happens it's just selfish not to have the conversation before acting.”

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Melanie Berliet · 11:21 PM

It's a great screen test
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Rachel Sussman · 11:22 PM

But let's talk about independence. The other day a couple told me that they're only happy when they are with each other - and fight when they are apart. What's up with that?
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:22 PM

Wow. That's fascinating. I am pretty attached to my current partner, I have to say.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:22 PM

Good comment Blake.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:22 PM

I get some separation anxiety and I wonder if it's unhealthy
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Rachel Sussman · 11:22 PM

hmmmm ;-)
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Melanie Berliet · 11:23 PM

But I do believe the old adage that absence makes the heart grow fonder
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Rachel Sussman · 11:23 PM

All relationships need some independence. It makes them more exciting. We shouldn't know what our partner is up to 24/7. Mystery people.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:24 PM

How did you advise your client to handle their issue?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:24 PM

I told them to get a life!
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Melanie Berliet · 11:24 PM

Btw, they must know that it's an issue if they're telling you about it. Right?
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:24 PM

hahaha.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:24 PM

No, actually I explored it with them. There is a lot of mistrust in their particular case.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:24 PM

★ Spotlighted from Rachael Workman

“pre-marraige breakups can be just as painful. what universal advice do you have for anyone reeling over a split?”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:24 PM

Yes - what ever you tell your therapist you assume it's messed up ;-)
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:24 PM

Oh, so it's jealousy that's motivating them to want to be together at all times. I see
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Rachel Sussman · 11:25 PM

Validate your pain. You are allowed to be really really sad. Build a support system.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:25 PM

Jealousy can break up a relationship. It is awful and there is no room for it in healthy relationship.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:25 PM

Thanks Sasha! Love ya.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:26 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“Rachel needs her own talk show. Move over Dr. Phil.”

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Melanie Berliet · 11:26 PM

Rachel is way hotter than Dr. Phil
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Rachel Sussman · 11:26 PM

Gosh Mel, that's the best compliment I've gotten in weeks!
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Melanie Berliet · 11:26 PM

Rachel, what do you think about the Times piece this past weekend regarding men needing women?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:27 PM

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/21/opinion/sunday/why-men-need-women.html?src=me&_r=0
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Melanie Berliet · 11:27 PM

I like the notion that women make men more empathetic. Rings true!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:27 PM

I LOVED it Melanie! I thought it was awesome and passed it around to many colleagues. I believe it is true and I've seen it first hand. My husband has 3 sisters, is married to me and we have a daughter. He's a very evolved guy!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:27 PM

I love an evolved man
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Melanie Berliet · 11:28 PM

I've seen it in male friends of mine who've had daughters. There's an immediate softening.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:28 PM

Men need us!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:28 PM

I think it makes a lot of sense. Women and men ARE built differently for evolutionary women. Women do have more ability to empathize and we oft times need to each this to our men folk.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:28 PM

We should be thanked more often, as women
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Melanie Berliet · 11:28 PM

hehe
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Melanie Berliet · 11:28 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“Do you ever counsel couples after they have been divorced? Let's say to help them manage the co-parenting of a child?”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:28 PM

Agreed!!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:29 PM

Actually Sasha I do. I love that kind of work because it can be very very useful. If a couple has a child they will be in each others life forever. It's important that they learn to get along for everyone's mental health.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:30 PM

So true. There's no return policy for kids.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:30 PM

Of course often what broke them up plays out in the post-divorce relationship.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:30 PM

How so, Rachel.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:30 PM

You mean the same problems that plagued their marriage persist in divorce?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:30 PM

What ever factors broke them up - poor communication, passive-aggressive, mistrust - it often plays out in their post-divorce relationship.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:31 PM

Doesn't have to - couples should agree to get along for the sake of the kids.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:31 PM

Interesting. I imagine even mundane problems such as the inability to stick to a schedule can impact a couple post split
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Rachel Sussman · 11:31 PM

Oh yes!!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:31 PM

Right. And from what I've read the worst thing parents can do to a kid is bad mouth the other parent
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Rachel Sussman · 11:32 PM

I've seen couples try to make each other's life miserable after a divorce. It's really a waste of everyone's time.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:32 PM

Yes, it is the worst. Kids should never ever be put in that postition.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:32 PM

Form a biological standpoint, my bad mouthing the kid's other parent, they're dissing half their kid being
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Rachel Sussman · 11:32 PM

That being said, I do see some parents who are divorced who do it really well. My hats off to them.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:32 PM

Yes - exactly. A kid should never be put in that position. They don't get it.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:32 PM

Their kid's being, I meant. (sorry for all those typos in my last message!)
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Melanie Berliet · 11:33 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“Is there ever a time when you have seen post divorce couples trying to manage their co-parenting relationship but the deep seeded issues are too deep to ever recover from?”

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Melanie Berliet · 11:33 PM

That's a bit doomsday, Sahsa
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Rachel Sussman · 11:33 PM

Well not to ever recover from. People can move past it. You need to put the kid's welfare first and grow up.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:33 PM

I like that!
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Melanie Berliet · 11:33 PM

Growing up is something we all need to be doing alwayas
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Rachel Sussman · 11:34 PM

At a certain point you must move past the past and if you can, forgive. Forgiveness is a favor to yourself. It lightens the burden.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:34 PM

There's no weakness is forgiveness!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:34 PM

Until the day we die!
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Melanie Berliet · 11:34 PM

(That's a quote from Friday Night Lights)
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Rachel Sussman · 11:34 PM

Not at all. Good quote!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:34 PM

Have you seen Friday Night Lights, Rachel? Because Coach Taylor and his wife on that show have such a great relationship in my view.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:34 PM

It's striking
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Rachel Sussman · 11:34 PM

Sasha, everyone needs to take some responsibility. Right?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:35 PM

No Melanie I haven't. I'm busy watching PBS because I'm worried the Republicans will yank their funding soon.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:35 PM

haha! I'm worried about that too. Absurd
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Rachel Sussman · 11:35 PM

Really !! Don't get me started.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:35 PM

But if you get the chance, you should watch Friday Night Lights, if only for the chance to watch how that relationship is written
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Melanie Berliet · 11:36 PM

Rachel, what do you think about the notion of The One?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:36 PM

I love it when TV shows realistic couples who are getting along well (and not so well).
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Rachel Sussman · 11:36 PM

I think we all have many "ones" in us!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:36 PM

There is not only ONE one.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:36 PM

Thanks Sasha. Are you famous or something?
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:36 PM

yeah. it's grea when the fighting is portrayed in television coupledom and it's not such an idealized version of a relationship that's totally unrelatable
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Melanie Berliet · 11:37 PM

You should consult for TV!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:37 PM

How many Ones are there then?
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:37 PM

Or, rather, how do you find any of the Ones out there?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:37 PM

Definitely. I've had clients over the years who say they have never seen their parents fight, so they feel the bar is set too high and they can't attain that.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:37 PM

So have we moved on to dating mel?
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Melanie Berliet · 11:37 PM

That's interesting. Do those couples just fight in private? Or do they fight telepathically? They can't not fight at all!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:38 PM

Well first you have to know what you are looking for.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:38 PM

Right.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:38 PM

Back to couples, some don't fight at all. Too afraid of confrontation. That's not too healthy either.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:38 PM

I'm suspicious of couples that don't fight
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Melanie Berliet · 11:39 PM

seems so unnatural
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Melanie Berliet · 11:39 PM

and yet, fighting TOO much is super scary
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Rachel Sussman · 11:39 PM

It is kind of. Some of us are more feisty than others. Some couples are very very chill and just don't go there. But a little fighting from time to time is perfectly ok. You need to learn how to address conflict with your sign. other.
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Rachel Sussman · 11:39 PM

Too much fighting is scary. Can be abusive. Traumatic.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:40 PM

yeah. especially if one party is especially aggressive and the other is not.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:40 PM

balance is key.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:40 PM

as with most things.
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Melanie Berliet · 11:40 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“Rachel do you see a therapist for your relationship?”

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Rachel Sussman · 11:41 PM

That is super problematic. It can be unsafe. People need to learn to manage their anger. Ok to use your words, or to express the feeling of anger in a statement. But yelling, threatening, very very bad.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:41 PM

Sasha's last question is a bit forward....
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Rachel Sussman · 11:41 PM

haha. Well let's say I have someone I can talk to when I need to. My husband and I have both learned to take responsibility and to say "i'm sorry". that's a biggie.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:41 PM

I believe therapy benefits everyone, personally!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:41 PM

Thanks Mel. People like you allow me to feed my family.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:41 PM

"I'm sorry" is magic
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Rachel Sussman · 11:42 PM

I know! But not so easy to say!! Some people never say it!!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:42 PM

Part of the contract should be "Must agree to say 'I'm Sorry' regularly"
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:42 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“Great answer. Thank you for that. Saying Sorry is big (although its bigger to know when you should be sorry)”

Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:42 PM

So true.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:42 PM

Forget "til death do us part." so obvious
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Rachel Sussman · 11:43 PM

Yes, Sasha, true. Sorry for sorrys sake - not so great - but better than nothing.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:43 PM

Well this has been wonderful, Rachel
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:43 PM

Any parting thoughts?
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Rachel Sussman · 11:43 PM

Are we saying Good Bye already? I'm just getting warmed up!!!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:43 PM

hehehe
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:43 PM

I love your enthusiasm
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:44 PM

We can keep chatting
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Rachel Sussman · 11:44 PM

Parting thoughts...
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Rachel Sussman · 11:44 PM

Breakups - It's ok to feel sad but keep the faith that that you will recover and move on!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:44 PM

Especially if you're willing to say sorry!
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Rachel Sussman · 11:44 PM

On relationships - Be respectful to your partner. Say I'm sorry. Take responsibility. Be an adult. And don't tweet your junk.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:44 PM

hahaha
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:45 PM

Definitely don't tweet photos of your junk!
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:45 PM

Thank you everyone!
RS

Rachel Sussman · 11:45 PM

Bye everyone. Nice to meet you Sasha and thanks for some really great and honest comments.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:45 PM

And thank you Rachel. It's been glorious.
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:45 PM

G'night1
Melanie Berliet

Melanie Berliet · 11:45 PM

★ Spotlighted from Rachael Workman

“best parting thoughts ever.”