Melanie Berliet

Host

Demystifying Courtship & Learning How To Manhandle

Sep 9, 2013·139 visitors

Lauren Frances

Cohost

Stage· 62 messages

Sep 9, 2013

Mélanie Berliet speaks with internationally acclaimed "man whisperer," Lauren Frances, about courtship in the modern age. Known for empowering women with her proven dating and mating strategies, Frances will explain how anyone can reboot their romantic life by nurturing the right attitude and mastering the right techniques.

Melanie Berliet · 5:00 PM

Hi Lauren. Thank you so much for joining me today!

Melanie Berliet · 5:00 PM

I'd like to start by asking you what about your personal experience has made you such an expert on men. They call you the Man Whisperer, after all...

Melanie Berliet · 5:05 PM

I just got off the phone with Lauren, who is going to be here in 5 minutes!

Melanie Berliet · 5:05 PM

Please excuse the delay.

Melanie Berliet · 5:14 PM

Thanks for your patience! Lauren should be joining us momentarily!

Lauren Frances · 5:16 PM

Hi Melanle! Here I am..got caught up giving a client a LoveRx

Lauren Frances · 5:17 PM

I have done my fair share of Romantic Research, and have coached thousands of woman around the globe.

Melanie Berliet · 5:17 PM

How did you come to this idea that women needed to learn how to "manhandle"? What exactly is manhandling, for starters....

Lauren Frances · 5:18 PM

It's different that Man-ipulation. It's understanding how to bring out the best in men, and getting your emotional needs met with the least amount of flak

Melanie Berliet · 5:19 PM

★ Spotlighted from Jordan Birnbaum

“Do you coach men too?”

Melanie Berliet · 5:21 PM

Good question, JB. Your book, Dating Mating & Manhandling" seems geared towards empowering women only. But surely men seek relationship advice from you too (Book: http://www.laurenfrances.com/books.php).

Lauren Frances · 5:21 PM

My practice is focused on supporting women in creating fulfilling love lives, cuz boys just wind up getting crushes ;)

Melanie Berliet · 5:21 PM

You've said that men are more like birds than dogs. what do you mean by that?

Lauren Frances · 5:22 PM

I do have a fantastic coaching for men, too, which is going to be in my next book..

Melanie Berliet · 5:22 PM

Got it. What is your main advice to women about how to become a successful manhandler?

Lauren Frances · 5:23 PM

Dogs are incredibly loyal, trainable, and predictable. Men on the other hand, get startled when you make fast moves, and often flee in an attempt to resist 'emotional arrest and only fly into the relationship 'cage' of their own volition!

Melanie Berliet · 5:24 PM

Ahhhh, that makes sense. Neither the bird nor dog smile seems all that flattering.

Melanie Berliet · 5:24 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“Lauren if you could sum up the three major issues you face everyday with your clients, what would they be?”

Melanie Berliet · 5:24 PM

and I meant simile (not smile!).

Melanie Berliet · 5:25 PM

Sasha, interesting question. Lauren, can you address?

Lauren Frances · 5:28 PM

Sure. I do have a focus in my practice as a leading expert in online dating, and help them create written profiles, do makeovers and photo's for them, and launch them online, like an online matchmaker of shorts

Lauren Frances · 5:28 PM

and sorts!

Lauren Frances · 5:29 PM

I also help women get out of unsatisfying relationships, and teach them how to restart their love lives

Melanie Berliet · 5:29 PM

Do you believe in relationship deal breakers? If so, what are some examples of a deal breaker?

Lauren Frances · 5:30 PM

Incompatible relationship goals.

Melanie Berliet · 5:30 PM

What is the number one mistake ladies make in dating?

Lauren Frances · 5:31 PM

Falling into unfocused flirting and not vetting men for relationship on first 2nd and 3rd dates

Melanie Berliet · 5:32 PM

How is focused flirtation different from unfocused flirtation?

Melanie Berliet · 5:33 PM

Is it more thoughtful and more specific to the individual? Or are there specific physical actions involved in focused flirting, such as touching of the thigh or holding hands

Lauren Frances · 5:33 PM

by asking The Heartache Prevention Question ....

Melanie Berliet · 5:33 PM

What's the heartache prevention question?

Lauren Frances · 5:34 PM

while sipping a martini, ask him 'so bob, I know you're divorced..do you still believe in the dream?

Melanie Berliet · 5:34 PM

the dream being what exactly?

Melanie Berliet · 5:34 PM

marriage?

Lauren Frances · 5:36 PM

marriage and family. but you need to define what you're wanting, and then vet men for that goal. If it's not compatible, peace out after date number one. you can't change what people want for THEMSELVES.

Lauren Frances · 5:36 PM

If you just want to 'get flocked' with suitors, then you can say to men, I'm just up for some fun!

Melanie Berliet · 5:37 PM

Do we necessarily know what we want, though?

Lauren Frances · 5:37 PM

ah, that's the problem for many women. I also help them define that!

Lauren Frances · 5:38 PM

But most women that I work with, when it comes right down to it still want that happily ever after scenario...unless they got really burned in a divorce

Melanie Berliet · 5:39 PM

Right. Happily Ever After sounds delightful! You were quoted in a recent Glamour article about the fact that women too often don't listen to what men are saying—that women tend to hear what they want to hear instead. How can women avoid this trap?

Melanie Berliet · 5:40 PM

the article for our audience's reference: http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2013/09/first-date-tip-to-understand-men.html

Lauren Frances · 5:42 PM

Thanks for sharing that Melanie. I do have a free podcast that women can listen to that will help them find out exactly how to do this Manhandling Manuever...text the word LOVE to 96000

Lauren Frances · 5:43 PM

You can also just..LISTEN. And believe men when they say that they 1) don't believe in Love 2) are still MARRIED and waiting for the divorce 3) that they are not in a relationship space right now

Melanie Berliet · 5:44 PM

Listening is key! You've also said that "Online dating is like writing a love letter to the Universe." What do you say to online dating holdouts—those who want romance to blossom in the "real" world and thus refuse to date online?

Melanie Berliet · 5:45 PM

I've encountered some young people recently who want nothing to do with online dating, even though they can rationalize that it makes sense as an efficient means of casting a wide net.

Melanie Berliet · 5:47 PM

Do you always recommend online dating?

Lauren Frances · 5:50 PM

Online dating is the biggest boon for single women since the invention of reliable birth control. It's like a giant Man Catalogue in the sky

Melanie Berliet · 5:51 PM

I like that! Makes sense. I suppose the holdouts are doomed to miss out.

Melanie Berliet · 5:51 PM

In closing, can you tell us a bit about the show you're filming?

Melanie Berliet · 5:52 PM

★ Spotlighted from Sasha A. Tcherevkoff

“Lauren are you in a happy, fulfilling relationship? Married?”

Lauren Frances · 5:52 PM

It's just a little pilot! I loved tawking with you!

Melanie Berliet · 5:52 PM

Sounds good. Well everyone who wants to be a "man magnet" should be excited about the show!

Melanie Berliet · 5:53 PM

I think Sasha's question is interesting....

Melanie Berliet · 5:53 PM

★ Spotlighted from Lucie Balassone

“What is your website Lauren?”

Lauren Frances · 5:54 PM

Sorry Sasha, I am!

Melanie Berliet · 5:54 PM

Here's Lauren's website! http://laurenfrances.com/

Melanie Berliet · 5:54 PM

That's good to know. I think it's odd when relationship experts are perpetually single. Seems a bit of a contradiction. Glad to know you're fulfilled.

Melanie Berliet · 5:54 PM

Thank you so much for joining me today

Lauren Frances · 5:55 PM

My pleasure, and I'm here if you need me ;)

Melanie Berliet · 5:55 PM

And thank you to our listeners! Definitely check out Lauren's website for good advice and a bottle of ManTrap perfume!

Melanie Berliet · 5:55 PM

Bye bye!

Lauren Frances · 5:56 PM

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Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:01 PM

So I'm here to learn to avoid being manhandled. Right place?

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:02 PM

Is Lauren wearing mittens?

Sasha A. TcherevkoffSep 9, 2013, 5:02 PM

I think thats right Jordan.

Sasha A. TcherevkoffSep 9, 2013, 5:03 PM

Lauren slow down. Your typing too fast.

Sasha A. TcherevkoffSep 9, 2013, 5:04 PM

Are going to re-title this Tawk? "Demystifying the silence."

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:06 PM

What's five minutes to solve my love issues?

Sasha A. TcherevkoffSep 9, 2013, 5:07 PM

Jordan I hear we would need a panel of 20 experts and 10 hours to tackle your love issues.

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:08 PM

Sadly accurate.

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:08 PM

Actually, ten hours seems pretty quick to heal me...

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:17 PM

LoveRx? Isn't that i

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:17 PM

Illegal?

Sasha A. TcherevkoffSep 9, 2013, 5:17 PM★ Spotlighted

Lauren if you could sum up the three major issues you face everyday with your clients, what would they be?

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:18 PM★ Spotlighted

Do you coach men too?

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:19 PM

Not on manhandling, per se...

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:21 PM

Doh!

Sasha A. TcherevkoffSep 9, 2013, 5:22 PM

I'm an eagle.

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:23 PM

I'm a seahawk

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:28 PM

To what degree are relationship issues actually parent issues?

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:30 PM

How about relationship jaw breakers?

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:32 PM

Uh oh. What's the vetting process?

Sasha A. TcherevkoffSep 9, 2013, 5:38 PM★ Spotlighted

Lauren are you in a happy, fulfilling relationship? Married?

Lucie BalassoneSep 9, 2013, 5:41 PM

Thank you for posting that article!

Jordan BirnbaumSep 9, 2013, 5:47 PM

For,young people, it seems like online dating means having the entire relationship on he Internet...

Lucie BalassoneSep 9, 2013, 5:52 PM★ Spotlighted

What is your website Lauren?

Lucie BalassoneSep 9, 2013, 5:56 PM

Thank you!!

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